Archive For: Life Coaching

Meeting People Where They Are

Benjamin Disraeli once said, “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” In the late 1800s, Disraeli served as Prime Minister for the United Kingdom and is most well known for his role in helping to create the conservative party. I ... Read More
 

8 Questions to Ask When Everything Goes Wrong

I have a good friend who’s been a successful business owner for nearly two decades. Recently, in the span of one week, her most valuable employee resigned, one of her children experienced a medical condition relapse and a major client decided to not renew their contract with her company. That week, everything that could go ... Read More
 

For Better Time Management, Take These 5 Steps

What percent of your day is spent living your life’s mission? Many executives I interact with seem to be distributing their time towards activities they think will make them money, make them appear powerful or give them a synthetic boost of confidence. Unfortunately, our society’s maniacal focus on this personality ethic produces poor outcomes for ... Read More
 

Writing About Your Values

A group of friends and I recently hiked three mountains in one morning. While climbing the second mountain, a very kind gentleman stopped me and asked, “Has anyone ever told you that you look like David Beckham?” I wish I could’ve seen the look on my face. I responded with a smile, a “No.”, and ... Read More
 

How to Brag

An integral part of living your personal brand is sharing your growth and success with your stakeholders. Not in the same way Donald Trump does, but in a way that truly shows the value you are generating for society. If you’re an introvert, you likely find the idea of self-promotion even more difficult. First, what ... Read More
 

Taking Ownership

I spent Labor Day weekend in West Michigan with my family reminiscing about previous vacations, the difficulties (and joys) of raising children, the future of the United States, and a host of other awesome topics. The conversations were phenomenal. I hope your holiday weekend was just as wonderful. As I flew back to Phoenix, I ... Read More
 

Failing Forward & Fearing Mediocrity

The more people I serve, the more I see just how limiting self doubt can be. It amazes me how much the need for acceptance and belonging drives us to place extraordinary value on external relationships, material things, and arbitrary notions of success … at the expense of self acceptance and personal achievement. In a ... Read More
 

The Hero’s Journey

A TED Talk by Paul Tudor Jones II about capitalism and income inequality recently caught my attention. I’ve listened to it multiple times as Jones II message resonates with me deeply because so many highly acclaimed economists are calling for another economic correction in late 2015, early 2016. Our focus on short-term quarterly earnings and ... Read More
 

Everything is a Gift

A few weeks back, I had the pleasure of eating dinner with a group of executives who had flown in to Scottsdale to discuss a strategic plan for their professional association. As we went around the room and made introductions, I sincerely appreciated the diversity of thought, background, experience, and reasons for wanting to volunteer ... Read More
 

The Power of Reflection

The search for new career opportunities is increasingly competitive. Each year, the United States graduates over 1.7 million young people into the workforce (according to NACE). The Bureau of Labor Statistics says there are 24 million people, of all ages, unemployed. Older workers are staying in the workforce longer because their bank accounts are no ... Read More
 

The Past Becomes The Future

As 2013 comes to a close, I’d like to end the year by asking you to reflect on the last 400 years of human development. As you begin to formulate your goals for 2014, I think it relevant to see where we’ve been and how what was will become what is. Below is a brief ... Read More
 

Increasing Your Energy Levels

I recently delivered talks to two separate groups, one focused on attention-getting 30-second introductions and the second was on personal branding. I asked each audience what they feared or weren’t looking forward to in the coming year. Many responded with variations of how to manage their busy schedules while remaining engaged in work, family activities, ... Read More
 

Start With Why

As I reflect back on the short period of time I’ve had on earth, I think about the three things I’ve done right. 1. I’ve failed miserably. 2. I’ve had my heart broken. 3. I chose meaning over money. Through these three things, I discovered my true self, realized that I wasn’t going to be ... Read More
 

Preparing for the New Year

As you begin to plan for 2013, take time to reflect on the previous year and the many accomplishments you’ve had. Oftentimes, we get consumed by our to do list, or tasks we didn’t accomplish, and forget to celebrate the wonderful things we’ve done. Pausing for reflection helps us to remember that the destination is ... Read More
 

The Support of a Loved One

Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich, is a wonderful text about how positive human thought can manifest itself into physical things. The book is worthwhile because it helps to remind us that there are certain things in life that will continue to go unexplained because they’re not tangible. Although not tangible, they are somehow ... Read More
 

How to “Out-Behave” Others

I just wrapped up a long weekend spent with friends who truly understand the importance of human character. It seems that so many people have replaced honesty, integrity, and trustworthiness with a focus on the personality ethic. To me, the personality ethic is a focus on the accumulation of iStuff (i.e. iPhones, McMansions, brand name ... Read More
 

Poverty of Attention

“What information consumes is rather obvious. It consumes the attention of its recipients. Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention. “ – Herbert Simon, 1970 I love this quote because Simon said it decades before the introduction and explosion of the World Wide Web and the various devices we use to access ... Read More
 

We’re Becoming Individual Corporations

Late one night last week, I was browsing available movies on Netflix when I came across The Corporation, a film by Mark Achbar, Jennifer Abbott, and Joel Bakan. The story begins with a retelling of how the corporation became a legal entity and eventually emerged as a legal “person”. Even at that point in time, ... Read More
 

When the Writing’s on the Wall

“He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.” – Harold Wilson I’ve talked to a couple of people recently about the change process and why they struggle with it so much. One said, “I wish someone could have warned me about the financial collapse ... Read More
 

The Glorification Nation

While spending time at a friend’s house yesterday, I couldn’t help but to hear the cheers coming from the television in the living room. A few people were huddled watching the NCAA basketball tournament and after watching the end of one game and the beginning of another, I couldn’t help but wonder, how many Americans ... Read More
 

20th Century Leaders vs. 21st Century Connectors

Greg Smith, former Goldman Sachs employee, wrote a scathing letter about the cultural change that had occurred at his former employer. In it he stated that the culture of the firm switched from being customer-centric to money-centric. He described meetings where no time was spent brainstorming about how to help clients, rather the entire meeting ... Read More
 

Work-Life Balance is a Myth

Globalization, changes in technology, and short-term, shareholder focused mindset has made work-life balance nearly obsolete. As much as you say you want to use your PTO, I know you end up working most of your day off and then telling your administrative assistant not to charge you for the PTO. How do I know? I ... Read More
 

When Words Fail

How many times have you been in, what seems like, a never-ending discussion with a colleague or spouse? I’m sure you can think of a few examples, even from the last few days. How many times do you let the words that are being said become a distraction from the real purpose or goal of ... Read More
 

Be The Change You Wish To See

I spent much of last Saturday painting a Habitat for Humanity home in the northwest part of metro Phoenix. We’ve all donated our time, talent, and treasure at various times to one cause or another. Some give to their chosen religious institution, to get tax write-offs, and others for the sheer intrinsic joy of being ... Read More